The betrayed partner is not responsible for the sex addict‘s recovery. She did not bring about the situation and so she‘s not required to fix the situation. What she needs is to focus on getting safe, stable, and being able to deal with her new reality.
-Michelle Dyett—Welcome,
The Breathe Easy Coach
84%
of betrayed partners discover their loved ones sexual addiction accidentally. According to Stefens Study 2005
70%
Betrayed partners met criteria for PTSD according to APSATS
14 years
Average time before discovery , Steffens Research
63.5%
of betrayed partners worked outside of the home. Steffens Study 2005
It’s common for betrayed partners to feel responsible for their sex addict spouse or partner’s acting out. They might believe that they weren’t enough, that they failed to meet their partner’s needs, or that something they did drove their partner to sexual addiction. This misplaced self-blame is a natural response to trying to make sense of the betrayal. However, it is important to understand that the addiction is not their fault. Sexual addiction stems from deep-seated issues within the addict, often unrelated to the partner’s actions or behaviors.
Learn more about betrayal trauma and how to heal from it
For the betrayed partner, it is crucial to shift the focus from self-blame to self-care and safety. Prioritizing one’s well-being is essential in dealing with this new reality. Here are some helpful ways to start unleashing your healing:
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Betrayal hurts. It can be paralyzing causing you to question who you are, what you know and negatively influence your view of people, life and yourself. You can take back control. You have a choice. Let me help you find your way forward as you navigate the terrain of betrayal trauma caused by your loved one’s sexual addiction.
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“I never thought that words could release the pain from my heart by making them heard not only by others but most importantly me. To feel the pain and hurt of trauma in life is a harsh reality, putting words to those feelings and giving them a voice has been a powerful dive into my heart and soul.” – SK
“With Michelle’s guidance I am able to dig deeper to find the deepest darkest depths to release in word freeing my soul giving me room to grow.” – SK
You are worthy of healing just like me and with Michelle to guide you there’s a possibility you can be freed. – SK
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MICHELLE DYETT—WELCOME, PCC, CPC, BTRL
The Breathe Easy Coach
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MORE ABOUT MICHELLE
Greetings! I’m Michelle, a Betrayal Trauma Specialist Coach and an ICF PCC level coach.
As a multi-hyphenate coach, I integrate various tools and my unique personal experiences to offer specialized support in betrayal trauma:
For partners, I guide you through the challenging aftermath of betrayal, helping you find healing and resilience.
For sex addicts, I assist you in developing empathy and evolving into a person of integrity, fostering personal growth and accountability.
For couples, I help you rebuild your relationship on a foundation of shared values, mutual respect, and the honoring of each other’s humanity.
Together, we can navigate these difficult journeys and work towards a brighter, more fulfilling future.
CERTIFICATIONS
BECTSPSA
FAQS
What specific techniques or approaches do you use to address trauma related to sex addiction?
I am a Betrayal Trauma Specialist Coach and an ICF PCC level coach, I use a multi-hyphenate approach integrating various tools and personal experiences. I offer specialized support by guiding you (the partner) through the aftermath of betrayal, helping you (the sex addict) to develop empathy and integrity, and assisting couples in rebuilding your (the couple) relationship by helping you (the couple) to identify and build on your shared values, and respect, and honoring your human-beingness. My approach is client-driven coaching, focusing on the present, and utilizing effective skills and relevant resources.
What qualifications and experience do you have in dealing with betrayal trauma and sex addiction?
I am a Betrayal Trauma Specialist Coach and an International Coaching Federation (ICF) Professional Certified Coach (PCC). My extensive experience includes guiding you through betrayal recovery, helping sex addicts develop personal growth and accountability, and assisting you in rebuilding your relationship. I integrate various tools and personal experiences to offer specialized support in betrayal trauma.
How do you ensure a safe and supportive environment for discussing sensitive issues?
I ensure a safe and supportive environment by maintaining strict confidentiality of everything discussed, with exceptions only in cases of suspicion of abuse, court orders, or potential harm to oneself or others. In couples work, secrets are not held between or from your partner. This confidentiality policy aligns with the principles of the IFS code of ethics, ensuring your information is protected and only shared under legally mandated circumstances.
What kind of support and resources do you offer between sessions?
I offer in-between session practices which we agree on in the session. They include specific skill-building exercises, resources, and activities. These resources help you to explore and identify root issues and address specific life problems effectively.
How are your sessions structured?
Sessions are structured in various packages depending on your goals and current life situation. Options include:
12 sessions for $2100 (one-time payment)
6 sessions for $1350 (one-time payment)
4 sessions for $1000 (one-time payment)
Initial Assessment Session for $175
Per session payment of $275 is due at the time of booking.
What is your cancellation policy?
48-hour notice is required for a cancellation or rescheduling. Please note that BECTSPSA charges a cancellation fee of $175 or higher ($250) depending on the coaching package signed up for.
What payment methods do you accept?
Some of the apps charge fees and that will be added to the bill like Paypal
- Stripe
- Zelle
- Cashapp
- Wise
- Venmo
- Square
- Paypal
What is your confidentiality policy?
Confidentiality is strictly maintained, with exceptions for suspicion of abuse, court orders, or potential harm to oneself or others. For couples work, secrets are not held between or from your partner. This policy aligns with the principles of the IFS code of ethics, ensuring client information is protected and only shared under legally mandated circumstances.
Who do you work with?
I work with you (the partner) as you journey through betrayal trauma. I work with you (the sex addict) as you seek personal growth and accountability and build integrity and empathy. I work with you (the couple) as you aim to rebuild your relationship. My coaching is suitable for individuals looking to achieve personal goals and address present issues, rather than those needing to address serious disorders. I am a trained IFS (Internal Family Systems) practitioner and will work with you to befriend the various parts of you that may be polarized so that you can be more self-led as you navigate your experience.
What does BECTSPSA offer?
BECTSPSA offers client-driven coaching sessions focused on helping you achieve your goals by addressing present issues hindering your vision for life. BECTSPSA provides structured session packages, initial assessments, per-session payments, and in-between-session support. BECTSPSA specializes in betrayal trauma, helping you whether you are a partner, sex addict, or couple navigate your difficult journeys toward a brighter, more fulfilling future. I, Michelle, will support you as you navigate this new and challenging terrain.